Dream Update Part 2: Romance
Today, I want to go to a virgin area of discussion. A subject that I have NEVER wrote about here. Well Dreamers, I have decided to briefly open the vault on my romantic status. Well…. (drum roll please)…. (waiting….)…(thank you)…
I am single.
-El Fin-
My shortest blog ever! Just kidding… 
Finding love has been quite an adventure while fighting for my dreams. I’ve fallin’ in love and have been high on love. I also have been tripped and beat down by love. I have broken hearts. I have had my heart broken. Love has been the most elusive of all my dreams. Yet, as my faith in Christ is undying, so is my hope for finding true love. This hope has allowed me to meet some very interesting women. They are Braniacs, Ministers, Models, Dancers (ballroom), quiet, loud, strong, vulnerable, courageous, and loving. Woman are the most mysterious and enchanting creations of God. I love women. I need only take inventory of my wonderfully amazing sisters and quietly spectacular mother to realize the genesis of my appreciation of women. Yet, despite my deep appreciation of women, the woman of my dreams has been quite a challenge to find. I been set up on blind dates, faith dates, dabbled with online dating, and even tried to meet my Michele Obama at the Obama Inauguration. Despite its elusiveness and my busy schedule, I view love like this: Love is like Jell-O; there is always room for it. Jell-O is a delicious and most intriguing snack. Despite being wonderful, there are times when you are full or fasting and the thought of eating Jell-O would make you puke…which reminds me…
This year I had my taste of Jell-O. Apparently, I did not see the expiration date on the label. We ended on a positive, ‘let’s just be friends note’…I believe this is a first for me. Usually, my break ups are like a Jazmine Sullivan song. For my super Christian friends who never allow their virgin ears to hear “de-bil music”, check out this youtube link http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mOzdfaEPaR0&ob=av2e. (Plead the blood of Jesus three times and you will be good.) Back to my cup of Jell-O cup… we are still “friends.” In truth, we are friends as long as someone is not in a relationship. Nonetheless, we wish each other the best. We Christianized the whole situation. We said, “I thank God for the whole experience. I pray that God truly blesses you.” Your flesh is saying, “You just crushed my heart…I hope a wolf gnaws your leg off. ” Or, “Being alone is better than being with you. I am much happier now.” Yes, I said Christianized. All Christians Christianize. We say Christian cliches to not say what we really feel. At any rate, I digress. Back to romance. I learned valuable lessons in this serving of Jell-O. For instance, in relationships, God’s love shines light in dark places. The question that determines the health of the relationship is, do we trust God enough in the other person to allow His perfect love to cast out darkness? Sometimes, we think a person falls out of love. In truth, they fall out of trust. Do you trust that person with your heart? Does your mate trust you with their emotions? Do you trust your mate with your fears? Satan will use any and everything (e.g. our fears) to destroy the trust in a relationship. Sadly, deception descends the relationship into the perpetual rut of rebuilding trust. Trust is obeys the 2nd Law of the Thermodynamics (google it); it is degraded every time it has to be rebuilt. Only Jesus can fully restore it, but that takes two people fully committed who will allow Jesus into the aforementioned darkness. It is easy to see the application of Amos 3:3, “How can two walk together unless they agree?” Obviously, I learned a great deal about the importance of trust in my most recent experience. I am convinced that we can only trust in a relationship as much as we trust God. Nonetheless, I appreciate the wonderful lessons my ex taught me and I pray that God truly blesses my her with happiness, joy, and romantic fulfillment (did I just Christianize?).
Well my fellow Dreamers, I have accepted God’s will my life. The good Lord (apparently) desires for me to finish some assignment(s) as a single man before I am blessed with a wife. Dreams of all types require patience and complete to submission to God’s sovergnity. James 1 encourages us to allow patience to have her perfect work in us so that we can be complete and lacking nothing. I will continue to exercise such divine patience. I pray you do the same. Until the next time, keep fighting for you dreams!
